Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Popularity.

"When I was a kid..."

We all have at least one story of when we felt bullied. 

I remember one time in Sunday School class there were not enough chairs.  A girl I looked up to suggested to the class that I could sit in one of the small baby chairs.  It hurt my feels enough that I've never forgotten about it, and yet, I know she wasn't intentionally trying to be mean.  If anyone else had said it then it probably would not have bothered me.

I've been thinking about the power that comes with popularity.  The power to sway opinions that can make or break someone.  I remember being so afraid of this one girl in high school.  Not that she was mean..  Not that I ever had a conversation with her.  ever.  She seemed nice enough.  She was confident, and radiant, and so stylish.  Always in the spotlight with her accomplishments.  I don't have a negative thought about her individually.  But she still scared me. 

For me it was the power she held.  What if I did try to talk to her or be her friend and she rejected me?  What if I did or said something embarrassing and she saw it and told someone.  Such power.

This whole post makes me feel so uncomfortable.  Brings back all those high school insecurities.  What if there are people like THAT girl who came across my blog and thought it was stupid for a grown adult woman to still be hung up over stupid high school popularity?

I'm not so afraid anymore.  I have life experience that has taught me who I am, and helped me to understand my own worth.  Sure, I have my self esteem ups and downs...  here is a secret-- everyone does.  Even THAT girl. 

I wonder... does THAT girl even know the power she held?  I would hope not. Power can do nasty things to good people.  Power instantly results in a feeling of superiority.  Are any of us really superior?  Hell yes.  Of course.  Not overall.. but in individual talents and accomplishments there is a resounding yes. 

For example, a lawyer must attain a certain level of education to earn a law degree.  I do not have a law degree.  I have not been to law school.  I have only been to one semester of college.  So... does a lawyer have a superior education in comparison to mine?  Yes.  Does that make the lawyer a superior person to me.  Yeah, no.. I don't think so. Not that I have anything against attorney's and not that I consider myself superior, either.  We all have our strengths and weaknesses.. and that's what makes us unique, and and in many ways, provides an identity to hold onto. 

Where did all this come from?  This video...  I watched it.  Then watched it again.  Then called my kids in and we watched it together, and then talked about how it made us feel.

You should watch it.. right now.  It's from this website: http://www.upworthy.com/bullies-called-him-pork-chop-he-took-that-pain-with-him-and-then-cooked-it-into and was created by Shane Koyczan.

I wish I could say that I know Shane personally..  because I am so impressed with him.




There is great responsibility that comes with popularity.  Power.  Power to make or break a person.  Bullying must stop here, where the power exists to stop it.

xo Cam 
(I can't stop watching it)

6 comments:

:Jayne said...

Wow! Boo hooing at the truth.

Unknown said...

Wow, this video is amazing. I had to watch it twice to try and see it through dry eyes. Thanks for sharing!

Maria said...

Camille..thank you for sharing your heart in this post. This brought me right back to my childhood. The video is amazing! I cannot wait to show it to my kids. Love you!

Elena Lai Etcheverry said...

amazing. I am so moved and awed. Thanks for posting this cam. I miss you girl!

Lisa said...

Oh my goodness, Cam!!! I see what you mean. Many tears here. This is such a powerful video, thanks for sharing it. I'm going to try to get my 17-year-old to watch it. All kids should see it!!
BTW, I mentioned you in my blog post today at http://lisaville.net/2013/02/22/an-invincible-summer/
and I'd LOVE IT if you'd check it out!

djc said...

The popularity game that so many played in high school is the reason why I skipped high school all together and went straight onto college. I didn't see high school as something that was necessary and I still don't. High School does little to prepare kids for real life and beginning college classes take up where 8th grade leaves off. The teenager years and high school is a fairy new concept all within the last 100 years. The kids that could used to go from grade school directly to a trade school, college, or university. I having done that see nothing wrong with making this option available again to kids who don't want to mess with the popularity contest and nonsense that comes with the teenager years.