It's my creed. My statement of belief.
Before all else, before Love, and Trust, and Faith, and Passion and Commitment there must first come saftey. If there is not safety then how can anything else be expected to survive? We all have the natural instinct of self preservation, avoiding pain and discomfort.
Do we take RISKS?
Absolutely. Until they proof to be too dangerous... too risky.
What is it about personal relationships that challenges our our basic common sense when it comes to safety?
You see a HOT fire.
::You don't stick your hand in it::
Yet there are certain people in our lives who hurt us, over and over again... and what do we do?? Keep going back for more.
Maybe it's the hope that people can (and sometimes do) change? Maybe it's optomistic attitudes that tell us the good outweights the bad? Maybe the person is so good at manipulation that the facts are discombobulated, and nothing seems as it is or was, and maybe YOU begin to feel responsible?
Maybe it's our life expereinces that make us feel like we deserve to be burned... or that we're going to be burned anyway, whether its here and now or in the next relationship.
MAYBE we begin to feel like it's suppose to burn... and not in a Johnny Cash kind of way. Maybe it burns for so long that burning becomes what is safe?
What else is there?